FAQ

Here are common questions that seem to crop up when we discuss our church.   If you have any additional questions, please contact us.

Do you have to homeschool?

Simply put, no.  We don’t have any requirements about how anyone educates their children.  However, our teaching on discipleship and parenting will fit most naturally in the context of home education.  For example, Deuteronomy 6 states very plainly that the children were to be taught by the parents at all times:

4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. [2] 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. (Deuteronomy 6:4-7 ESV)

We find this passage to be particularly pertinent for today’s parent.  In this passage, Moses is proclaiming to the Israelites how and what they should have been training their children.  This preparation was to be very helpful as the children of those parents would be surrounded by pagan cultures and would suffer many temptations to fall away from God’s teaching.  This is what our children face today, and thus it seems prudent to take Moses’ instructions to the Israelites very seriously as we disciple our children to engage the culture in our present day.

Will I be asked to sign or give anything?

It is common for the visitors to our church to sign a guest book informing us of their visit, but we do not pass an offering plate during the service, and we do not ask visitors to give anything.  We want you to feel welcomed and hope that you enjoy the people of our church.  In fact, after the service, we have a potluck fellowship meal in which all guests are invited to attend and move to the front of the serving line!

What do kids do during the worship service?

We encourage our families to stay together for the whole service.  We know that the result is a noisier and less serene atmosphere, but the noises that do happen are understandable and definitely worth the benefits.  Everybody in our community has opportunities to “parent in the pew”, and we value those times because we believe it can produce long-lasting effects.
For example. Scott Brown says this:

“There is great value for a very young child experiencing the deep and authentic worship of the church. Something is being transferred as they watch their fathers give of the family resources during the offering.  As they grow up, their understanding will increase.  Something is being transferred as they watch the adults “worship in spirit and in truth” (John 4:23).  They don’t get everything, but they can get something from observing the fervency and genuineness of the church’s expression of love for God, dependence upon Him, and joy in Him.  This is the value of having children in church.  Children progressively understand what a parent and the wider church members love and appreciate. Year after year, their understanding builds.  Year after year, the well is filling up.  The cumulative effect of deep and significant thinking and activities is what we are looking for.”

Here are a few comments from children in our church:

“I’m glad that we don’t have a Sunday school class because I enjoy being with my family.  I like the way Pastor Griffin teaches verse by verse and explains what each verse means.” Age 9

“I like Pastor Griffin teaching us Bible time and I like Daddy teaching us Bible time.” Age 3

We know very well that it is more challenging to keep the kids with you, but our community is very understanding because we believe in the great benefits it affords.

What is your worship style?

You will find that the music on Sunday morning is a simply arranged mix of contemporary worship choruses in addition to more traditional hymns.  The lyrics for the music each Sunday are purposefully God-centered, biblically based, and reflective of spiritual truth.  As the London Baptist confession states:

But the acceptable way of worshipping the true God, is instituted by himself,2 and so limited by his own revealed will, that he may not be worshipped according to the imagination and devices of men, nor the suggestions of Satan, under any visible representations, or any other way not prescribed in the Holy Scriptures.

What about missions?

Our church supports the Southern Baptist Convention’s Cooperative Program, which has been very consistent and prolific in its missions efforts.  Additionally, we look for opportunities for whole families to be involved in prayer for missionaries known to our church body as well as opportunities to take short term mission trips.  Some of our membership even participate in doorstep evangelism in the neighborhoods of our community.

However, we also believe the ministry of hospitality can be a form of evangelistic outreach.  We encourage our members to make it a habit to invite both church members as well as their neighbors into their homes for dinners and fellowship time.  It is our belief that time together with a biblically structured family is a very effective evangelistic tool.  Respectful, obedient children; supportive and nurturing wives; and gentle but courageous men proclaim the truth of the Gospel in a very tangible way that can go beyond two questions or four laws.  Although staying in your local area may not be as common a theme in the minds of many when it comes to missions,Romans 10:14,15 is true even for the people in our own neighborhoods too:

14 How then will they call on him in whom they have not believed? And how are they to believe in him of whom they have never heard? And how are they to hear without someone preaching? 15 And how are they to preach unless they are sent? As it is written, “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the good news!” (Romans 10:14,15 ESV)

We believe that God has placed each family in a very important place in our community.  An evening in the home of another family builds relationships and paves the way for deeper conversations, questions, and opportunities to share the Gospel.  This is not to say that home-based hospitality is the only way, but it is a powerful tool for many of the families in our church.  For more information, this article contains a more lengthy explanation.

Are singles left out?

Although it might seem counterintuitive, the single adult or older child can be quite productive and active in a family integrated church.  Paul makes it clear to singles in his letter to the Corinthians that the single person is blessed with more time to serve God’s kingdom than the married counterpart.

32 I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. 33 But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, 34 and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.  (1 Corinthians 7:32-34 ESV)

In this passage as well as in other parts of chapter 7, Paul explains that both the married and the unmarried man are doing good things, but that the unmarried man has more time to devote to God, since his life isn’t filled with the practicals of caring for a family.

Thus our position on the role for the single adult and older children is that their focus should be on service.  With a church full of families, there is no shortage of opportunities to minster to the body of Christ.  Consequently, we haven’t created a separate ministry for singles because we believe they can most naturally fulfill the call to service if they are integrated into the main ministry of the church.

Will a single mom fit in?

As most of us know, the path through life for a single mom is tough, and she has many unique needs.  Our church is structured after the New Testament covenantal communities that formed the early church, and when our members join, they make a pledge to support each other through thick and thin.  This is exactly what a single mom needs!  We pattern our church after the strong community presented in Acts 2:42-45.

42 And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. 43 And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. 44 And all who believed were together and had all things in common. 45 And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. (Acts 2:42-45 ESV)

Though she may not be surrounded by other single moms, she will be surrounded by godly men and women who will love and sacrifice for her family.

One thing in particular that remains constant for every single mom is the need for proper male modeling and influence in the lives of her children.  Despite whatever tragedy preceded and produced the absence of proper male influences in the lives of her children, the opportunity for men in the church to fill the gap is very high in a family integrated church.  In a sense, a family integrated church is a perfect place for a single mom.

Do you have a dress code?

Yes we do!  Not because we think we should, but because God has commanded it. Our dress “code” isn’t a list of what you can and cannot wear, but rather a principle of modesty found in 1 Timothy 2:9-10.  Dress should be orderly, proper, and modest and be consistent with the idea that clothing is meant to conceal not reveal.  Modest clothing is decent and illustrative of good sense.  We should not wear something in order to attract attention to ourselves or to be noticed, but our dress should reflect the God that we serve.

How do I join the church?

There is detailed information on joining the church in the constitution and by-laws, but feel free to talk to an elder or deacon to find out more as well.  One thing you’ll find is that prospective members are asked to sign a membership covenant.  The membership covenant is intended to address the question, “How do we commit to living together as the body of Christ?”  The membership covenant is an important way to communicate that joining a church is an agreement to spiritual and relational commitments within the body of Christ that are designed to build up the corporate body and enhance the corporate testimony of the church in the community.

Also, church membership is the means by which the church can identify to the world who is a true believer.  Church membership is a witness to the belief that a person is indeed saved and under the ecclesiastical authority of the local elder body.